Technology has its downsides, but it has its upsides too. Recently my husband bought me a new phone (something I was resistant too initially and made no effort to hide my complaints). As I got familiar with this new, and maybe a bit complicated, piece of technology, I discovered an “app” that allows me to record events, appointments, and even shopping lists. The coolest thing about this feature was that everyone on our phone plan could sign in from their phones or computers and view or make changes to the calendar or shopping list. Now my husband and I have a way to keep track with what each of us was doing, eliminating confusion and misunderstanding regarding our respective schedules.
My husband found an even better use for this feature, though. He likes to send me secret messages using the shopping list. For instance, today he added “something special for Rebecca” to the shopping list. Now that made me smile. Not only was it endearing, but I knew he was thinking about me even if he had not verbally communicated it (which is important to many women, including myself). In turn I left an item on the shopping list “I love you, husband”.
Sometimes we need to lighten up and take a step away from the grueling demands of life. With work, bills, health problems, children, LIFE, it can be tempting to let the little things fall by the wayside. My husband and I have found a way to use what can be considered a curse by many to be a blessing and tool in our marriage.
How about you? Have you and your spouse discovered ways to use technology to help add a unique flavor to your relationship? How do you “keep it fresh” in new and unexpected ways?
My husband, the computer analyst, and I, the cyber-writer, have found one unexpected use for email… when we’re in the middle of one of those.. ahem… “discussions” that crop up from time to time in marriage, we have found email works really well for us to each explain what we feel about the topic without the other one interrupting. This may not work for everyone, but it’s really handy for us, especially when he’s at work and I’m at home and there’s a cloud hanging over the relationship. Plus it gives me a chance to reread what I’ve said and edit it for snark before I send it. That has turned out to be a really, really important step… 🙂
That’s a great idea, Julia. My husband and I use texting in a similar way. Sometimes we even write letters. 🙂
So good. I’m going to forward it to my grandsons…maybe they can surprise their wives with a note.
Thanks!
Rachel Quinley
Great idea, Rachel!